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Why was Modamily started?


I noticed a good portion of family and friends spending their 20s and 30s focused on their careers and putting off marriage and children. Yet, as they approached 40, especially in the case of female friends, there came an enormous amount of pressure for finding a partner, often resulting in rushed marriages ending in divorce. It was even more disheartening when a child was introduced because now that child would often have to be raised in an environment of friction where mommy and daddy did not get along. I felt there had to be another viable option that could protect against these problems. Hence, co-parenting.


What's the difference (pros/cons?) between turning to a sperm donor and finding a co-parent?


The main difference is the other person is involved with the raising of your child. We feel that co-parenting provides more support to the child because it involves two parents that are physically, financially, and emotionally committed. In a gay/lesbian couple relationship looking for a sperm/egg donor, the involvement of the donor is usually more limited, but if the donor has some kind of relationship with the child, it can provide them with a better sense of identity about where they come from. Healthy, happy, and balanced children are what we are trying to achieve and statistically, having both a mother and father within a child’s life dramatically improves chances for a happy and balanced upbringing. Also, donor conceived children sometimes develop health problems related to their father’s genetic makeup, for example they pass down the genes which may make them more susceptible to certain diseases such as diabetes or cancer. Knowing this information can help with diagnosis and even preventative treatment. Therefore knowing the identity of a donor has many benefits for the child, through to when they become adults. 


Is the idea that people who find each other on Modamily later hook up and actually have sex until the woman is pregnant - or through insemination?


The fundamental concept behind Modamily is that we provide a network where members can meet other like-minded people who dream of becoming a parent. There are many ways to become a co-parent, and what Modamily does is help our members find someone that wants to raise a child in a similar fashion as they do. Modamily simply matches up the parents based on their desires and they decide how best to proceed from there. 



If people find a good parent match on Modamily - why just have a baby together and not also start a relationship?


The desire to become a parent is why men and women use Modamily, but there is nothing preventing the development of a relationship. Our primary goal is to create a community for great potential parents that removes the stress and pressures associated with feeling that in order to be a parent one must find a spouse first.


How do you think the fast track to parenthood, through a social forum online, will change the way families are formed in the future?


A niche social network like Modamily will definitely help increase the odds of finding someone in a shorter period of time. This goes for straight or gay singles and couples looking for a donor. Everyone joins for the same purpose: to become a parent. Because people are staying single longer and waiting to get married, sites like Modamily can fill the void by helping those that still want to fulfill dreams of having a child. There’s plenty of time to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, but only a limited time to find Mommy or Daddy Right.


What has been the inspiration for Modamily (other websites or such?), and when do you think the first successful new family will be formed through Modamily?


I used to be very uncomfortable with the idea of going on a dating site to meet women. When I moved back to New York, I found that many of my friends had met their significant others on sites like, eHarmony, jdate, or OkCupid and some even got married and had kids. These people weren’t weirdos or had three heads, like I pictured. Rather, they were just regular people like me looking for that connection. However, I also felt that there was a sub-set of people that were frustrated with these sites because they weren’t meeting their needs. I felt that if I could put together a site where everyone is there for the sole purpose of having a child with a partner, it would be possible to form a like-minded community to fill that need. Everyone is on their own timeline when deciding to become a parent, and we merely provide a forum to for people to meet like-minded individuals.


The Modamily Mission


Modamily provides a network where members can meet other like-minded people who dream of becoming a parent. There are many ways to become a parent, and what Modamily does is help our members find someone that wants to raise a child in a similar fashion as they do.

One of the sites capabilities that sets us apart from other co-parenting and sperm donor sites is the Parenting and Lifestyle quiz, which helps member’s determine which candidates on Modamily have a similar vision and values ethic for how they want to raise their child. Furthermore, Modamily has recently launched the Personal Concierge Service, where our staff personally gets involved to guide members through their search process.

Modamily is also the go-to resource for information about co-parenting and sperm donor laws, fertility options, pregnancy health and well-being, and best practices recommendations on how best to responsibly embark on this journey.

Modamily has been featured internationally in BBC News, ABC News, Fox News, the Huffington Post, the Daily Mail, Marie Claire,, and more. Visit for more information.

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Who are Modamily's clients?


•       Single men and women, gay or straight, who are ready to have kids and don't want to do it alone. 

•       Gay male couples wishing to find an egg donor for a surrogacy arrangement, or a known donor who will also be involved in the child's life

•       Lesbian couples looking for a sperm donor - this may be an anonymous or known sperm donor who could be part of their child's life

•       Men wishing to donate their sperm

•       Women wishing to donate their eggs

•       Women wishing to be surrogates

•       Men and Women looking for medical and legal information on how to become co-parents